Finding God in Our Pain

Suffering Well In the Even Though, And the Even If Seasons, with Heather Bradley

Summary:
*Suffering Well: Heather discusses the concept of suffering well, emphasizing the importance of maintaining faith and finding peace in the presence of God, even amidst life's most painful trials.
*Christ as a Model: The conversation delves into how Jesus' suffering and obedience to God serve as a model for Christians to follow in their own times of hardship.
*Loss of a Child: Heather shares the heart-wrenching story of losing her four-month-old son, Brennan, which became a catalyst for her deepened relationship with Jesus and a transformative moment in her faith journey.
*Challenges with Mental Illness: She recounts the struggles with her other son, Nate, who battled mental health issues, and how this experience taught her about spiritual warfare and the power of persistent prayer.
*The Presence of God: Heather repeatedly emphasizes the unparalleled peace and joy found in God's presence, which she describes as the ultimate reward for enduring suffering with faith.
*Miracles in the Journey: She highlights that the miracle often lies in the journey itself rather than an immediate resolution, and how persistence in faith can lead to profound personal and spiritual growth.
*Persistence in Prayer: Heather encourages believers to persist in prayer and not give up, even when immediate answers are not apparent. She uses biblical references, such as the persistent widow and the story of Jericho, to illustrate the importance of enduring faith.
*Spiritual Warfare and Authority: She discusses the importance of recognizing and combating spiritual attacks, particularly those targeting one's family, and the necessity of standing firm in faith.

Intro:
Author and Women’s Ministry Leader, Heather Bradley shares her profound experiences and insights on the theme of "suffering well". Heather's journey through personal tragedies and challenges highlights the intersection of suffering, faith, and the transformative power of a relationship with God.

Heather herself has been challenged with this very thing not once but twice and both of those instances had to do with 2 of her children, both sons. She refers to these seasons of life as her "even if" and "even though” stories. 

God didn’t move His hand to change Heather’s 4 month old son’s health issues and her baby boy, Brennan passed into the arms of Jesus. When her other son, Nathan was 6 years old the family experienced his overnight transformation into a mental and emotional journey of pure exhauston lasting 10 years before God moved His hand to change Nathan’s health condition. 

How do we suffer well when the One who could change our circumstance doesn’t or at the very least He waits an awfully long time? 

But hold on to this truth…we don’t need to fear the painful valleys in this life, and it has nothing to do with sidestepping or avoiding the pain itself. Nobody this side of heaven avoids trauma and suffering. But if you’re a believer in Christ our suffering and pain are turned into purpose. 

We’re transformed, refined and walking in a deeper level of intimacy with and freedom in Christ. There is nothing in this life that compares to the peace and joy that God can give in the very midst of traumatic pain and suffering. That’s why no weapon formed against us shall prosper. If we give God space to speak into our pain, to answer the cries of our heart, comfort us when the answers won’t come, He gives us the beauty of His presence that overwhelms our pain.

So Heather and I made it a point to talk about the struggles and realities faced by many Christians, particularly in the United States, who often perceive faith as a pathway to unending joy and favor, devoid of pain and suffering. However, Heather's journey illustrates that suffering can coexist with divine joy, favor, and anointing, revealing a more complex, yet enriching, narrative of faith. The truth is, God is in the business of transforming us using the very pain that was supposed to destroy us.

In sharing her journey, Heather not only provides insight into her personal trials but also offers a message of encouragement for others navigating their own paths of suffering. Her story is a testament to the transformative power of faith and the beauty that can emerge from the ashes of our pain. 

As believers, we are reminded that suffering is not the end of our story. God transforms all the weapons formed against us for our good and His glory. To me, being held in God’s secure embrace, is the safest place to be in the most unstable environment I’ve ever know.

Let’s listen in to hear the wisdom that Heather shares, may your heart be encouraged!

Live Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive.com
Sherrie Pilk

Other resources on the topic of suffering:
Hope in the midst of Chronic Illness, with Sara Willoughby: https://alifeofthrive.com/2025/01/01/hope-in-the-midst-of-chronic-illness-with-sara-willoughby/
Discovering God Through RevelationShip, with Cathy Garland: https://alifeofthrive.com/2024/10/23/discovering-god-through-revelationship-with-cathy-garland/
Finding Hope in the Ashes, with Lea Turner: https://alifeofthrive.com/2024/09/25/finding-hope-in-the-ashes-with-lea-turner/
Suffering (Blog Post), Sherrie Pilk: https://alifeofthrive.com/2021/09/21/suffering/

Connect with Heather:
Website: https://www.truthfreedomministry.com/
Podcast: https://www.truthfreedomministry.com/podcast
Link for her Book, Unthinkable: https://www.truthfreedomministry.com/unthinkable
Brandon Heath - Don’t Be Afraid: https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=WzmghvthTTk&list=OLAK5uy_lwPpoQjoIU5-72AJC5MRU6ug30PYAeKuU
Brandon Lake - Don’t Give Up On Me: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1gW1IVM3qq0#ddg-play

Bio:
Heather Bradley is the founder of Truth Freedom Ministry, a social media ministry for women, to be equipped and encouraged in the things of God. She is passionate about helping people walk through the hard things of life. 

A Texas girl at heart, but loves the adventure of going to new places. She has been married to the love of her life, Kelly, for over 29 years and they have 4 children. They homeschooled their kiddos and have lived all over the USA, but are happy to be home in Austin during this season. 

You will typically find her serving at her local church, that they help plant, in pastoral care and women's ministry. She received her Bachelor’s Degree in Education. Later she attended Bible School and has been ordained in pastoral ministry. 

Heather love’s gardening, reading books, trying new recipes, and traveling. Her favorite pace to be is sitting down for coffee with others while listening to them share their life stories. The latest news is she is a first time grandmother! So, her new name is Gigi! 

Heather co-host’s a podcast, called Leaving The Shallows, with her good friend-where they help listeners leave the shallow end and go into the deeper things of God. Her prayer is that others would know the love of Jesus in their hardest moments here on earth and experience His healing and purpose and know that He is always with them.

Navigating The Empty Nest and a Healthy Mental Well-being, with Dr. Mel Tavares

So excited to be talking about how to make the most of our empty nest season with Dr. Mel Tavares! Dr. Mel is an award-winning author, speaker, life coach, and frequent media guest. Mel holds a Doctorate of Ministry, in Pastoral Care and Counseling and has 35 years of experience in working with families professionally and in ministry. She is a board certified mental health coach and life coach.

Summary:
-Distinction Between Mental Health and Mental Well-being: Mental health often involves clinical diagnoses, while mental well-being focuses on overall emotional and psychological health without a clinical diagnosis.
-Holistic Approach to Health: Importance of addressing mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health collectively. The conversation highlights the impact of nutrition and lifestyle habits on mental well-being.
-Role of Faith in Counseling: Mel discusses the benefits of incorporating a biblical perspective in counseling and the limitations faced by secular counselors in discussing faith.
-Purpose and Productivity in Later Life: The conversation touches on the idea that individuals in their 50s and 60s enter some of their most productive decades, encouraging listeners to pursue dreams and goals regardless of age.
-Overcoming Trauma and Forgiveness: Mel shares personal experiences and emphasizes the importance of forgiveness and healing from past traumas, suggesting that Christian counselors or recovery groups can provide support.
-Importance of Goal Setting: Setting goals provides structure and motivation, allowing individuals to turn their dreams into reality.
-Community Engagement: Engaging in community activities and volunteering can alleviate loneliness and depression, fostering connections with others.
-Anxiety Busters: Practical tips like eating healthily, maintaining a sleep routine, and reducing media consumption can help manage anxiety.
-Hope and Encouragement: Mel concludes with a message of hope, emphasizing that there is always hope in God's plan and encouraging listeners to reach out for support.

Podcast Intro:
My guest, Dr. Mel Tavares is an award winning Author, Speaker, Teacher, and Coach and she sat down with me and provided a very informative conversation about entering our 50’s and 60’s with a healthy mental well-being and ready to explore all the new possibilities set before us. I chose the empty nester season of life because I felt like that encompassed a lot of the changes that a woman faces when entering her 50’s and I wanted to expand it to our 60’s as well.

The transition into the empty nest phase of life can be a profound and transformative period in a woman’s life because it is often filled with mixed emotions and new challenges. You may be seeing your children off to college, giving some away in marriage. Maybe your employment is going through changes; do you want to quit your current job and start the job you’ve always wanted to do/changing careers altogether? Or maybe you’ve decided to start going back to school and let’s not forget that some ladies are also caregivers for their parents. So this particular time in a woman’s life can be mentally, emotionally and physically overwhelming and how do we navigate it all?

So Mel and I looked at the question how can we enter into this season of life equipped to make the most of it? The first thing we look at is our mental well being. Mel makes a distinction about mental health and mental well-being. I asked her questions such as, where can someone start when trying to pinpoint our gifts and talents? How can we discover what we’re created for especially if we’ve lost connection with our true selves? Truth is, we’ve devoted ourselves to those around us and in doing so we can loose touch with who we are as an individual woman. And then there are the times we’re just stuck; we know somethings not working but we don’t know how to get unstuck. And here’s something else we talked about, what happens when we forget how to dream?

Ultimately, the journey through the empty nest phase is an invitation to embrace change and rediscover oneself. By prioritizing mental well-being and adopting a holistic approach (which Mel talks about), individuals can navigate this transition with confidence and joy. It is a time to reflect, dream, and step into new roles with a renewed sense of identity and purpose, knowing that the best years are yet to come.

Listen in for all the wisdom and insight that Mel has to share!

Live Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive.com

Connect with Mel:
Mel Tavares Media Links
 Website: https://www.drmeltavares.com/
                                                                          *Free Downloadable Workbook: 6 Weeks, 6 Life Goals
Author Facebook Page: https://www.facebook.com/authormeltavares/
Rise Up and Conquer Your Day Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/208329358938340
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmeltavares/

Bio:
Mel Tavares is an award-winning author, speaker, life coach, and frequent media guest. Mel holds a Doctorate of Ministry, in Pastoral Care and Counseling and has 35 years of experience in working with families professionally and in ministry. She is a board certified mental health coach and life coach. She and her husband live in Connecticut, have seven adult children and eleven grandchildren. Her books, including the award-winning, best-selling book ’21 Days to Improved Mental Well-Being’ are available through Amazon. Other resources can be found on her website: DrMelTavares.com

Additional Episodes on the topic of mental illness:
Navigating Her Children’s Mental Illness Journey - Patty Sepety: https://alifeofthrive.com/2023/07/06/navigating-her-childrens-mental-illness-journey-with-patty-sepety/
Making Marriage Healthy with Marriage Counselor, Leslie Davis: https://alifeofthrive.com/2023/11/08/marriage-healthy/
Michele Poe on Mental Health Illness and Suicide: https://alifeofthrive.com/2020/10/28/mental-health/

The Transformative Power of Gratitude, with Amanda Schaefer

Summary:
*The conversation discusses the power and simplicity of gratitude as a spiritual discipline.
*Gratitude is seen as a choice and a discipline that can lead to transformation and intimacy with God.
*Practicing gratitude can rewire the brain's neural network to focus more on positive aspects.
*Simple daily practices, such as acknowledging things to be grateful for, can cultivate gratitude.
*Gratitude can combat negative emotions like fear and anxiety, promoting peace.
*Engaging with biblical teachings, like Philippians 4:8, can help maintain a posture of gratitude.
*The discussion emphasizes the importance of intimacy with God for true gratitude and compassion.
*Gratitude and love are linked, with love being viewed as faith in action and compassion.
*Practicing gratitude can lead to improvements in one's life, including emotional and spiritual growth.
*Gratitude is portrayed as a gift from God, intended to be shared with others as an overflow of His love.

Podcast Intro:
Gratitude is an ever-present concept in our lives, yet we often underestimate its power to transform our perspectives and experiences. The episode today was a great conversation with author, podcast host and speaker, Amanda Schaefer.

She shared her insights on how the simplicity of gratitude can be more profound than we imagine, offering a window into a value system that transcends our earthly understanding. Gratitude, she explains, is not a trait some are simply born with, but a discipline and a choice that anyone can learn and embrace. It is an attitude that, when practiced intentionally, can lead to a profound transformation in one's spiritual and emotional life.

Amanda discovered gratitude is part of our neural pathway that, once traveled repeatedly, becomes a well-worn trail in our minds. This practice of choosing to focus on the positive aspects of life, even amid challenges, reaps, peace, joy, and blessings. 

By acknowledging the beauty and goodness around us, we can cultivate a mindset that anticipates good things and, in turn, experiences more of it. This is not to say that gratitude is a natural inclination for everyone; it requires conscious effort and practice. Amanda emphasizes that the discipline of gratitude is something that has to be developed, much like any other skill or habit. Once the habit is formed, you will naturally perceive and notice countless things to be thankful for.

The practice of gratitude is not complicated. Amanda recounts how she began a simple morning routine of expressing gratitude before her feet even touched the ground. By starting the day with a focus on the goodness of God, she found that it set a positive tone for the rest of her day. When one is grateful, feelings of fear and anxiety are replaced with peace and joy, as gratitude and fear cannot coexist.

Moreover, Amanda highlights the biblical perspective on gratitude. We talked about Philippians 4:8, which encourages believers to focus on what is true, noble, right, pure, lovely, and admirable. This verse encapsulates a heart posture of gratitude, guiding individuals to meditate on the good and praiseworthy things in life. In doing so, one aligns closer with a life of peace and intimacy with God. The act of focusing on gratitude is not just a spiritual exercise but a transformative experience that can renew the mind and spirit.

Throughout this conversation Amanda reminds us, this practice of gratitude is within everyone's reach and can bring about profound personal and spiritual growth and create deeper intimacy with Christ.

Let’s listen in and be encouraged today!

Live Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive.com

Other Related Podcast and/or Blog:
Blog - Hallelujah! https://alifeofthrive.com/2021/11/02/hallelujah/
Podcast: Donna Renay Patrick - When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned: https://alifeofthrive.com/2021/11/10/donna-patrick/

Connect with Amanda:
Website: www.acupofgratitude.org
IG: www.instagram.com/acupof_gratitude
FB: www.facebook.com/amanda.f.schaefer

Bio:
Amanda Schaefer is a podcast host, author, and speaker. She carries with her the goodness of looking through a lens of gratitude. The “A Cup of Gratitude” podcast is global, reaching over 111 countries and 3000 cities. As a speaker, Amanda teaches the Bible while challenging audiences to live the way God intends. She has a way of making scripture come alive through everyday examples. Amanda’s books include, “Crumbled, A Place for Broken People” and “Daily “Instaration.” She is a contributing author of “Life Changing Stories and the newly released books, “One Chance, One Dance, Don’t Miss the Moments in Your Life,” and “Courageous Voices Unlocked.” Her books are down to earth and packed with Biblical truth. Amanda has also written articles for “The Brave Women Series,” “The Uncommon Normal Gratitude Series,” “The Love Offering,” “The Warrior Women Series,” “Butterfly Living, “The Empty Nest Mom Series,” and “The Season Series.” She has a new collaborative book project due to be released this December and is under contract to write a new manuscript slated to be released in February 2025.

Hope in the Midst of Chronic Illness, with Sara Willoughby

SUMMARY:
*Sarah Willoughby shares her personal journey with chronic illness and how it has impacted her life and faith.
*Sarah emphasizes the importance of knowing one is not alone in their struggles, which can be a lifeline for many.
*She details her journey to getting a diagnosis, which took seeing 13 doctors and being misdiagnosed multiple times.
*Sarah highlights the impact of chronic illness on her family, community, and personal dreams.
*She discusses the spiritual journey and questions that arose during her illness, including struggles with understanding God's love and purpose.
*Sarah shares how her faith was strengthened by wrestling with difficult questions and seeking God's presence.
*She emphasizes the value of asking God questions and the importance of being honest in one's relationship with Him.
*Sarah has found new ways to serve and connect with others through writing, speaking, and organizing online conferences for those with chronic illnesses.
*The conversation concludes with resources for those struggling with chronic illness and the reassurance that they are not alone and have purpose.

PODCAST INTRO:
My guest, Sara Willoughby is a young woman who is courageously navigating life with chronic illness. Sara's journey is not just a testament to her resilience but also a beacon of hope for many who find themselves battling similar challenges. Her story underscores the power of faith, the importance of community, and the unexpected beauty that can emerge from suffering.

The Beginning of a Long Journey

Sara’s life took an unexpected turn when she was diagnosed with Lyme disease, multiple chemical sensitivity, and toxic mold poisoning. Her path to diagnosis was long and stressful because of several misdiagnoses and various consultations with 13 different doctors—Sara shared that misdiagnoses and countless doctors is a journey that is very familiar in the chronic illness community. This prolonged uncertainty and the eventual diagnosis upended her life. One facet of her diagnosis of being exposed to mold in her home lead to her and her family losing their home and cherished possessions.

Faith Amidst Adversity

Sara's faith has been a cornerstone in her journey. She speaks candidly about the struggles she faced in reconciling her belief in a loving God with the suffering she endured. She talks about what it means to live a purposeful and fulfilling life in the midst of ongoing uncertainty. Her relationship with God deepened as she allowed herself to ask difficult questions and seek God for His answers.

Finding Purpose in Pain

Despite her limitations, Sara discovered new avenues to serve God and others. Her writing became a powerful tool for ministry, allowing her to connect with a global audience. Through her blog, the book she wrote and the Diamonds conference for Christians with chronic illnesses, Sara has fostered a community where individuals can share their experiences, find resources, and support each other.

The Beauty of a Slower Pace

Sara highlights the unique contributions that those with chronic illnesses can make to the world and the church. The slower pace of life, often imposed by illness, offers opportunities for deeper reflection, creativity, and meaningful/purposeful connection (something that I personally feel is no longer prioritized in our society; people are just too busy). Whether through snail mail ministries, prayer, or online conferences, Sara emphasizes that those with chronic illnesses have valuable gifts to share.

Embracing God's Love

Throughout her journey, Sara has learned to trust in God's plan, even when it doesn’t look like what she personally envisioned for herself. She has seen God resurrect her aspirations in unexpected ways, from publishing a book to serving overseas and marrying a supportive partner. Her story is a powerful reminder that God's love and purpose for us are not diminished by our circumstances.

Conclusion

Sara Willoughby's journey with chronic illness challenges how we naturally want to define a "normal life" and I loved it because the beauty that radiates from her life, the intimacy she has with the Lord, the significance of a slower pace, the creativeness born out of hitting a wall per se, it’s one of the most beautiful reminders that God uses everything about our life to deliver us into a deeper richness of identity, meaning, and purpose and on countless levels.

Her willingness to share her story offers hope and encouragement to those facing similar challenges. Leaning into her limitations by trusting in God's love, Sara has found a fulfilling and purposeful life, inspiring others to do the same. Her message is clear: you are not alone, and there is beauty and purpose to be found, even in the midst of suffering.

Live Loved and Thrive! @ alifeofthrive.com

Connect with Sara:
Diamonds Conference Website: https://diamondsconference.org/ 
He's Making Diamonds devotional freebie: https://sgwilloughby.com/devotional/ 
Website: https://sgwilloughby.com/ 
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sgwilloughby/ 
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sgwilloughbyauthor 

Bio:
Sara is the author of He's Making Diamonds and the founder of the Diamonds Conference, an online event for Christians with chronic illnesses. She lives in California with her husband and loves dark chocolate and adventures.

“Healing is a journey and you’re worth the trip,” Taleah Pletzer

Summary:
*Taleah Pletzer shares her personal journey through trauma and how it has influenced her work as a trauma-informed coach and healing prayer facilitator.
*She describes a turbulent childhood, including being abandoned by her biological mother and experiencing sexual abuse from her father.
*Taleah emphasizes the importance of healing and finding wholeness, explaining the concept of trauma A (single incident) and trauma B (ongoing trauma).
*She recounts a pivotal moment where she nearly attempted suicide but was stopped by a powerful voice she attributes to God.
*Taleah discusses her process of finding a personal relationship with God, which involved questioning and seeking answers about her worth and God's love.
*She highlights the role of the Emmanuel Approach in her healing journey, which combines brain science with biblical principles to foster healing through direct interaction with Jesus.
*Taleah expresses a passion for helping women, particularly young women, heal from their trauma and avoid carrying it into their adult lives.
*She shares her plans to start a nonprofit organization to offer healing services to women who may not be able to afford them and to create a supportive community.
*Taleah's biggest reward is witnessing others experience the presence of Jesus and gain freedom from their past traumas.
*She concludes with a message of hope, reminding listeners that healing is a journey worth taking and that God is always with the brokenhearted.

Podcast Intro:
I had the absolute pleasure of speaking with Taleah Pletzer, a trauma-informed coach and healing prayer facilitator. She shared her personal journey through a turbulent childhood and the profound impact that trauma had on her life. Through her story, she illustrates the powerful message that healing is possible, no matter the depths of past traumas and I don’t know about you but that’s the kind of message I love to hear; hope in a better tomorrow.

Understanding Trauma and Its Impact

Talia's childhood was marked by chaos and abandonment, leading to countless challenges, including issues of attachment and self-worth. She candidly spoke about her experiences with sexual abuse, the rejection of her family, and the struggles she faced growing up in a household filled with addiction and darkness. Despite these challenges, Taleah found hope and healing through her relationship with God.

The Role of Faith in Healing

One of the key themes of our discussion was the role of faith in Taleah’s healing journey. She described moments of divine intervention that saved her life and provided comfort during her darkest times. While Taleah did not have a relationship with God during the abuse, she now emphasizes the importance of building an intimate relationship with God, because she believes it is crucial for true healing and transformation.

Trauma-Informed Coaching and the Emmanuel Approach

As a trauma-informed coach, Taleah uses the Emmanuel Approach, a method that combines brain science with biblical principles. This approach helps individuals connect with Jesus in a tangible way, allowing them to explore their emotions and experiences in a safe and supportive environment. Taleah highlighted the significance of starting healing sessions with positive memories to activate relational circuits in the brain, facilitating a deeper connection with God and oneself…which played a significant role in her recovery. Her story serves as a testament to the transformative power of faith and perseverance.

Conclusion

Taleah Pletzer's story is powerful…so much so I titled this podcast after her own words….healing is a journey and your worth the trip!. Her message to those who feel trapped by their past is clear: you are not alone, and there is hope for a brighter future. By embracing the healing power of faith and seeking support from compassionate guides like Taleah, anyone can find the strength to overcome their trauma and live the life God intended for you o experience…one of wholeness and freedom.

Whether you’re in trauma A, B or you simply feel stuck in your head or your heart, Taleah is waiting to help and the healing power of Jesus is waiting to transform.

WARNING
Before we get started Taleah does give a warning that her testimony may create a trigger for some people as it does include the topic of self harm. If that is something you are sensitive to you will want to listen out for the point in our conversation when you hear Taleah’s voice crack, she pauses and she says sorry, this is a little bit hard for me….this is where you will want to pause and either pray to prepare yourself to enter into the topic with Taleah or come back at a later time when you’ve had time to process your own feelings.

Let’s listen in!

Connect with Taleah:
FB: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61563515485284
Email: Hearthealing123@gmail.com
Phone: 775-324-8064

Bio:
Taleah (pronounced Ta’Leah) is a dedicated trauma informed coach specializing in empowering women to navigate through life’s challenges with resilience and grace. As a survivor of both physical and sexual abuse throughout her childhood, Taleah knows first hand the long term effects of trauma can have on a person if the root issues are not addressed. 

As a Christian and a mother of 5 daughters, she brings a compassionate and understanding approach to her work. Living on a ranch, Taleah understands the importance of nurturing growth and healing, both in the fields and in the hearts of those she supports. With her expertise and empathy, Taleah guides women on their journey towards complete healing and freedom , therefore empowering them to live abundantly!

A Caregiving Season with No Regrets, Rayna Neises

Summary:
*Rayna’s book, "No Regrets, Hope for Your Caregiving Season," offers hope, direction, and practical advice for caregivers.
*Rayna emphasizes broadening the definition of "caregiver" to include anyone providing care, not just professionals.
*Caregiving is described as a season with different phases, including times of crisis and routine care.
*Rayna shares her personal caregiving experience with her parents who had Alzheimer's, highlighting the importance of balancing personal life with caregiving duties.
*She stresses the need for caregivers to regularly check in with themselves and others to make necessary adjustments.
*Finding time for self-care and spiritual reflection is crucial for caregivers to avoid burnout.
*Rayna advises caregivers to be intentional about maintaining relationships and delegating tasks to preserve their well-being.
*She encourages exploring options and being open to making changes when current solutions aren't working.
*Rayna highlights the importance of creating a support network of family, friends, and community resources.
*The conversation touches on navigating grief and the importance of living a life without regrets through intentional caregiving and personal reflection.

 

Podcast Intro:

My guest today, Rayna Neises (Nigh-sis) has a passion for coming alongside those in a season of caregiving. Her experiences of walking both of her parents home, and into the arms of Jesus started her on a journey with a deep desire to help others who find themselves overwhelmed as a caregiver.

She’s now a certified coach who can help you navigate your caregiving season. She’s authored a book, No Regrets, Hope for your Caregiving Season and the focus is to do just that, help you meet the demands of caring for others and not loosing yourself in the process. I love how she puts it, helping people find a way to honor the person they’re caring for, walking them all the way home with no regrets and still have a life to walk back into.

You’ll need to listen to all the different options for balancing the ever changing demands on a caregiver's day. And while Rayna’s parent’s diagnosis of Alzheimers had an end to her caring season, all of her knowledge, insight and practical advice would be super beneficial for those who are caring for loved ones over an extended period of time. Instances where there is no closure; they’re living with uncertainty as to how long they will be caring for their loved ones. The longer the caregiver role the more important it will be to put Rayna’s suggested practices in place and use them on a regular basis. The natural relationship of caregiving can include parents caring for children, spouses caring for each other, friends who step in to care well.

Rayna is also the host to her podcast, A Season of Caring where her guests share their knowledge and experience, about the subject of caregiving and they too provide hope, encouragement and resources in addition to all that Rayna has available on her website: https://raynaneises.com/

Here are some of the topics we touched on:
Rayna challenges the traditional definition of a caregiver, advocating for a broader understanding that includes anyone who provides care and support to others, whether they are paid professionals or family members.

Rayna reminds us that Caregiving is not a static role but one that ebbs and flows with the ever changing caregiving demands. Rayna makes the point that it’s important to recognize when making adjustments are necessary. Whether it's reallocating time, seeking help, or making pivotal decisions about care etc.

We talked about how important it is to build a support network. It’s essential, whether it’s through family, friends or hired caregivers. Rayna points out ways to build a support system saying this approach not only eases the caregiver's burden but also enriches the caregiving experience for everyone involved.

I delved into what it means to finish the caregiving task well and with no regrets. To me, the thought of that being a possibility (and Rayna is proof that it is possible), is an incredibly comforting outcome to being a caregiver.

We talked about embracing flexibility and options. I love this because Rayna's journey teaches us that caregiving decisions are not set in stone. The ability to pivot and explore options, whether in living arrangements or daily routines, can lead to better outcomes for both the caregiver and the person receiving care.

Ultimately, Rayna's message is one of living without regrets. By being intentional in your caregiving roles, making informed decisions, and allowing room for change, caregivers can look back on their experience with a sense of fulfillment and peace. Rayna’s story is a testament to the power of love, resilience, and faith in transforming the caregiving journey into a season of growth, peace and no regrets.

If you are in the midst of a caregiving season or if you find yourself in a caregiving role, listen in and let Rayna speak some beautiful encouragement to you today!

Live Loved and Thrive!
Sherrie

Connect with Rayna:
Email: Rayna@ASeasonofCaring.com
Coaching Services/Support Groups/Education workshops etc: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/
Caregiver Wellbeing Check-In: This free resource is a pop up (it will appear on the page as you visit her coaching website): https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/
Book - No Regrets, Hope for you Caregiving Season: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/no-regrets-hope-for-your-caregiving-season/
Podcast: A Season of Caring: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/podcast/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMNeQw8WKnxWal4Qp3G5OBg
Content Magazine: https://www.aseasonofcaring.com/content-magazine/

Bio:
Rayna Neises is Certified coach and author of “No Regrets:  Hope for Your Caregiving Season”. With the rich tapestry of her life, from the fields of her family farm to the heart-wrenching experience of losing both parents to Alzheimer's disease, Rayna has crafted her calling into a mission that lights the way for others. As a devoted wife, a cherished Graham, and a loving stepparent, her life is a testament to the power of faith and family.

Rayna's professional journey as a Certified Coach, speaker, and Author offers a beacon of light to those navigating the complexities of life and caregiving. Her voice resonates not only through the pages of her book but also through the airwaves as the host of "A Season of Caring Podcast," where she delves into conversations that help caregivers live content, love well and care without regret in their caring season.

Rayna also extends her reach and compassion through "Grannies Talkin' Dementia Podcast," a platform where she shares insights, stories, and support for those affected by dementia, bringing understanding and hope to a community that cherishes every memory and moment.

In every word she writes and every conversation she leads, Rayna Neises embodies the essence of living a life with no regrets, embracing each season of life with grace, faith, and a heart full of gratitude.

Letting God Rewrite Trauma and Abuse, with LaShaundra Barnes

Summary:
*My guest, LaShaundra Barnes shares her story of finding God amidst her deep personal struggles of abuse and suffering.
*LaShaundra discusses her abusive relationship, which began after reconnecting with a high school acquaintance, highlighting the barriers that kept her in the relationship, including love, loyalty, and legal issues concerning her children.
*She speaks about the fear of the unknown and anxiety that hindered her ability to leave the abusive relationship sooner.
*LaShaundra emphasizes the importance of having a supportive community and the role of her church in helping her through the healing process.
*She shares her experiences with her children's mental and emotional health, revealing the impact of witnessing domestic abuse and the challenges of raising neurodivergent children.
*Our discussion touches on the need for individualized parenting, considering each child's unique needs and triggers.
*LaShaundra highlights the power of scriptures and worship music in providing comfort and encouragement during difficult times.
*She talks about the importance of forgiveness in the healing journey and how it has helped her find peace and co-parent with her children's father.
*LaShaundra encourages others to share their stories, emphasizing that our experiences can transform lives and bring people closer to God.
*She stresses that for those in abusive situations there is a need for therapy and counseling to thrive after abuse.
*LaShaundra provides hotline numbers that have 24/7 access:
In emergency and life of death situations: Call 911 or the emergency number in your area.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
The Center for Family Safety and Healing: Text the word start, S-T-A-R-T, to 88788.
The Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, simply dial the number 988.

Podcast Intro:
When I met LaShaundra my first impression was her vibrancy. The joy in her eyes, (which as believers we know that is the presence of the Holy Spirit), the tone of her voice and her presence. These things combined, I heard and saw joy and it became more pronounced as she began to share what she has been through, is going through. Life has not been easy and yet she describes herself as blessed.

LaShaundra’s testimony is one of the reasons why I do this podcast. When everything familiar in our life gets turned upside down, people want to know where is God? Does God make a difference? Does He care and if so, what does His kindness look like? How does He make a difference?

LaShaundra is a single mom with 3 young children and she has endured countless levels of abuse some of which are mental, emotional, physical, financial, etc. And yet, she shares a message of God’s goodness despite the cruelty of this life and the proof (of God’s goodness) is displayed in her, through her, day to day.

I’m not saying her life is all sunshine, rainbows and smiles because she admits it’s difficult. Single moms know that singleness is a challenge all it’s own. Moms with special needs children know the complications on a daily basis. Abused women are familiar with the struggle to find healing and wholeness again. Women who know they need to leave abusive situations are faced with overwhelming fears of what if and that is enough to keep them in the abuse. 

When faced with the possibility of a new life, rebuilding ourselves and rebuilding our lives, how do we trust, who do we trust? I even think about, if we can’t even trust the people we can see, hear and touch, how do we learn to trust God? Will God still love us even if we find ourselves in situations that are of our own doing or does He just look at us and say, you made that bed now sleep in it.

If you’re living any of these situations or questioning God about His goodness you will find great encouragement in LaShaundra’s message of how God cares for us at every turn in our journey. She has learned that having spiritual disciplines that keep her grounded in Christ is the first line of defense against overwhelm, anxiety and fear. She reads the word of God and she relies on God to be who He says he is and do what He says He’ll do. He has never failed her and even her learning curves of discovering God’s heart have brought her new levels of intimacy and greater/deeper joy.

Be encouraged today as you listen to LaShaundra’s example of who the God of the Holy Bible is in the context of pain and suffering. God speaks the most beautiful things in the dark.

Live Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive.com

 

Other Related Podcast Episodes:
Breaking Cycles of Abuse and Trauma: https://alifeofthrive.com/2024/07/31/breaking-cycles-of-abuse-and-trauma-with-lindsey-smith/
From Survive to Thrive, Overcoming Sexual Abuse: https://alifeofthrive.com/2024/01/03/from-survive-to-thrive-overcoming-sexual-abuse-with-tina-ivey/
Heal From Childhood Abuse: https://alifeofthrive.com/2023/03/01/healing-from-childhood-abuse-with-virginia-jones/
Christian Marriage, Abuse and Boundaries: https://alifeofthrive.com/2023/04/12/christian-marriage-abuse-and-boundaries/

Connect with LaShaundra:
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@herdesiredhaven

Bio:
LaShaundra Barnes is a Podcast Host and Producer who uses her passions, gifts and creativity to glorify God. She is an entrepreneur, a domestic violence survivor and is currently a single mother raising neurodiverse children. Her life experiences both good and bad have shaped and molded her into the woman she is today. She's determined to tell her story showing how good God is and the wonderful acts and miracles He's done in her life. By sharing her story she desires to help others believe, to find purpose in their pain and peace in the midst of life’s storms.

RESOURCES:
Here are some 24/7 Confidential Services:
In emergency and life of death situations: Call 911 or the emergency number in your area.
National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233
The Center for Family Safety and Healing: Text the word start, S-T-A-R-T, to 88788.
The Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, simply dial the number 988.

From Bartender to Nun, to Bartender to Transformed, God never gives up!

Summary:
*Gina Economopoulos shares her journey of faith, family, and personal struggles.
*She grew up in a large, loving Italian-Greek Catholic family.
*After college, Gina became a bartender, finding it a suitable job due to her social personality.
*She struggled with alcoholism, initially not recognizing it as a problem.
*Gina faced significant grief with the loss of her mother, which led her to question her faith.
*Her journey included becoming a Catholic nun, seeking deeper meaning and love.
*She experienced significant suffering and confusion during her time in the convent.
*Gina eventually left the convent and struggled with identity and faith.
*Her fiancé's death from alcoholism was a turning point in her life.
*Gina found healing and a renewed relationship with God through a 12-step program, leading to sobriety.

Intro to the Podcast:
My guest, Gina Economopoulos has quite the unexpected twists, turns and cliffhangers in the chapters of her life story. Even as unique as our individual stories are I feel sure you’ll find many ways that you can connect with Gina. Her message is most definitely is for us all, God never gives up! 

Raised in a large, traditional Italian-Greek family, Gina's early life was a rich tapestry of Catholic values and unconditional love. The seventh child of 8, Gina was doing all the expected things as well as all the typical things of her youthful days in college and young adulthood but as life does, her world is flipped upside down and for her it was the death of her mother.

Gina shares her story of navigating the fragility of life both in her (in her brokenness and searching for love and purpose) as well as the brokenness of the world around her. Throughout her mistakes, searching, challenges and heartbreak after heartbreak, Gina maintains her out-going, people loving personality. Her resilience continues to bring her faith to the forefront and even her sense of humor remained albeit, at times it was used to cover up the pain.

A quick line of events for Gina’s life gives you the overview of the various challenges and a glimpse of God’s faithfulness to be along for the whole journey. A child who had medical/health complications that lead to a feeling of lack and the need to excel and prove her worth.

In college she was a party girl and also graduated with a degree in social work. Out of college she began bartending as a career but as mentioned it was the death of her beloved mother that shook her to the core. She found herself turning back to her Catholic roots, searching for meaning and solace in her grief. This loss acted as a catalyst, propelling her into a period of searching for something more profound—something to fill the void that partying and alcohol could not.

Her spiritual journey took a sharp turn when she joined a convent, seeking a deeper relationship with God and a sense of belonging. Despite her efforts to discover the peace she thought the convent would give her, the challenges within herself as well as the added difficulties and conflicts with the other nuns/sisters, would lead to her being asked to leave the convent. This was a devastating blow that increased her feelings of lack, adding more confusion and uncertainty.

The next chapter of Gina's life brought her back into the world where she would need a job and a paycheck, problem is she hadn’t worked for 12 years. So she returns to what she knows best, bartending. Her knowledge of religion struggles against the intimate relationship with Christ that is developing but it’s never more challenged than when she finds love and is then forced to endure the heartbreak of losing her fiancé and his death is associated with alcoholism.

She walks away from God but little does she know, God never gives up and she hasn’t given up either, she just doesn’t know it yet. She goes to a global recovery program modeled after AA (Alcoholics Anonymous) called The Rooms. Heartbreak/pain and anguish were in full anger and hatred mode but just maybe a tinge of fear lead her to The Rooms. And this is the very place where she slowly allows God to reveal Himself in a deeper and more intimate way. Learning that God never gives up on us solidified her journey from religion to relationship and it’s been maturing ever since.

Gina's story highlights the incredible resilience of the human spirit and the unwavering belief that even in the darkest times, there is hope and healing available. Her message is clear: don't give up, because God never does. He loves you and He will transform you if you let Him. It's a testament to God’s heart to save, heal and redeem. No matter how winding the road may be God is there every step of the way. God never gives up on us!

Live Loved and Thrive! @alifeofthrive.com

Other Related Podcast/Blog Topics & Resources:
Resource:
In the Rooms - A Global Recovery Community: https://www.intherooms.com/home/
Podcasts:
Did God Fail Jane?: https://alifeofthrive.com/2023/05/10/did-god-fail-jane/
In the Presence of God: https://alifeofthrive.com/2022/03/02/presence/
Blog:
The Good God: https://alifeofthrive.com/2021/06/01/good-god/

Connect with Gina:
https://www.ginaecon.com/

Bio:
Gina Economopoulos was born in Syosset, NY, to a strong Italian and Greek loving family. She graduated from Eastern CT State University and bartended before embarking on a 12 year convent journey after her mother’s passing.

Settled on the Jersey Shore, Gina now works as an End of Life Doula, extending her compassionate heart to those in there final chapter. She found solace in sobriety as a proud Alcoholics Anonymous member, and her story of resilience through tragedy and faith inspires others to face life’s challenges.